Going through Infertility…You don’t have to do it alone.
Written by Nikki Csipkes, secretary of Conceive Nebraska
The month that my husband and I decided to start official trying to get pregnant was exactly one year after our wedding. I remember my husband saying “Please don’t be upset if it doesn’t happen the first month” and me being too excited to truly process those words. Being a mother has always been a dream of mine; in first grade for career day I brought in my baby doll and told everyone my career was going to be a mom! After that first month of trying to conceive, that dream took 47 more months to be realized.
48 months = 4 years- quite a long journey (but not as long as some other women I know). After year one of trying with no success we sought out the advice of an OBGYN who had us start on some tests to figure out if there was an issue. I had NO idea of all of the things that could go wrong and wish that I had understood the process a little better before starting. It is our hope at Conceive Nebraska that we get more information out to women through pamphlets at OB offices and/or classes about infertility testing.
My husband and I went through tests to check my fallopian tubes, his sperm count and longevity, my uterus, etc. Some were uncomfortable and again I wish I had known about a few of them beforehand. I went through surgery to remove some polyps, got advice and counsel from two reproductive specialists and tried four IUI’s. We were now three years into the process and I was exhausted emotionally after our diagnosis of “unexplained infertility”. We started looking into adoption but after a few months decided to try our last option: IVF.
Did you know that there is no way to find out if a woman has eggs, and if those eggs are good eggs without removing the eggs from the body? That is what we discovered…my body was doing was it was supposed to each month, but without this procedure we would never know for sure. We got 5 eggs that made it to the blastocyst stage and the doctor put the “ two most perfect looking eggs” of those five into me. The result was twins and as of this day we have a healthy 18 month old son and daughter!
Now that you know a little about my story I would like to tell you how I made it through this process. Infertility is lonely, heartbreaking, frustrating- basically a roller coaster of emotions. It is different for everyone, but I think some of the things that I did will help most people. I also believe that if Conceive Nebraska was around earlier, that this organization would have benefitted me even more!
Top 10 things that helped me:
I vowed that if I made it through the infertility process and became a mother that it would be my mission to help other women and couples through their journeys. Currently, I am the Secretary of Conceive Nebraska. It is our hope that we can offer free support groups, classes, information in doctors’ offices and clinics, and raise money for awareness and support of couples who are trying to become parents. I hope that in sharing my story, ideas, and thoughts that at least one person is benefited! We continue to pray for all of you out there in whatever stage of the journey you are on!
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