By: Kassandra Mayo
It’s February and love is in the air! This month we tend to focus a little more on our significant others through sappy love notes, glittering gifts, and elaborate displays of chocolates and roses. Of course, when you’re going through infertility, love can look a lot different. In fact, most relationships feel a strain between all the appointments, charting, administering shots, and medications. Not to mention sex on demand or lack of sex.
When my husband and I were in the middle of our 12-year infertility struggle, we had to make a choice that no matter what, our relationship came first. We chose date nights when we didn’t feel like it. We chose to leave notes of encouragement when we were the most discouraged. We chose to call ourselves a family even when the world said we weren’t. We chose us and that no matter the outcome of our journey, we would still remain together. This July we will celebrate 16 years of marriage and we are still madly in love with each other!
So, I would like to encourage you to first give yourself a little love this month. Give yourself permission to lavish some self-care on yourself-however that may look. Take a yoga class, set aside some time to journal at your favorite coffee shop, go throw axes with your bros, or call in sick and do whatever you want for a whole day! After you’ve helped yourself to a little love, choose to kindle some romance with your significant other. Go to the movies and order the extra-large popcorn, take a class together and learn something new, send a love letter by snail mail to your s/o work, or you both call in sick and spend the day lazily loving each other in bed because YOU TWO are a family and family comes first!